Former addict helps problem gamblers break habit

Saturday, 15. March 2014

Former addict helps problem gamblers break habit

Mar. 14, 2014
Written by
Russ Pulliam
 Indianapoils Star

The Institute for American Values in a new study outlines the tragedy: Casinos have become senior citizen centers.

The report suggests that problem gambling is growing among senior citizens who play slot machines and other games in casinos. Casino advertising promotes images of smiling faces, but the study’s author, Amy Ziettlow, found another story, with many older Americans depressingly glued to the machines.

“The mesmerizing design of the ubiquitous electronic gambling machine absorbs the time and money of many seniors, while exploiting their loneliness, idleness, and boredom,” she writes. “Sitting at a slot machine felt like being stranded in the ocean in a small inner-tube, trying to connect to other isolated swimmers against the persistent undertow.”

Against that bleak backdrop, Arnie Wexler provides a more hopeful perspective, one based on 45 years of freedom from a gambling addiction.

Wexler continues to rescue victims from their addiction to slot machines. He came to Indy for a recent seminar for the MidCentral Alliance on Problem Gambling. He started with a sports betting habit that grew out of control in his home state of New Jersey. He placed his last bet in 1968.

That was before casinos came to Atlantic City, along with state lotteries, off-track betting and Indian casinos.

Wexler stayed out of political debates over gambling, focusing instead on helping victims. Yet for years the gambling industry saw him as an enemy because his stories about people wrecked by their addiction indicate that for some gambling can be as harmful as illegal drugs.

Eventually, however, executives in the casino industry realized he could help train employees to spot problem gamblers, just as a responsible bartender stops serving drinks to customers who’ve had enough. Casino managers also appreciate Wexler for helping them with their own employees who struggle with gambling problems.

“The problem is bigger behind the table than in front of the table,” he said. “There are so many workers in the industry that have a gambling addiction. I’ve helped people from housekeepers to presidents of casinos.”

The heart of his work is 12-step programs. The average of success is not high, and some addicts relapse after years of freedom.

Wexler persists because he wants to help others avoid the suffering he endured. “The greatest joy you can have is seeing a person free, after three months, and then six months, and then a year,” he said. “The highest high I get today is my wife and kids and grandkids, and then seeing new people come for help and see their growth and recovery down the road.”

 

Arnie and Sheila Wexler have provided extensive training on Compulsive, Problem and Underage Gambling, to more than 40,000 gaming employees (personnel and executives) and have written Responsible Gaming Programs for major gaming companies. In addition, they have worked with Gaming Boards and Regulators, presented educational workshops nationally and internationally and have provided expert witness testimony. Sheila Wexler is the Executive Director of the Compulsive Gambling Foundation. They also run a national help line (888 LAST BET) and work at Recovery Road, a treatment facility in Palm Beach Gardens, Florida that specializes in the treatment of those suffering with gambling addiction. They will have a book out this fall on gambling/gambling addiction.

Pete Rose graces latest Sports Illustrated cover !

Friday, 7. March 2014

DOES PETE ROSE BELONG IN THE HALL OF FAME? 

BY ARNIE WEXLER CCGC
There are people in various sport’s halls of fame who are convicted drug addicts and alcoholics, yet compulsive gamblers are unable to get into these halls of fame. In fact, as far as professional sports goes an alcoholic and chemical dependent person can get multiple chances, whereas a gambler can not.I am a recovering compulsive gambler who placed my last bet on April, 10, 1968, and I have been fighting the injustice of how sports, society, and the judicial system deal with compulsive gamblers for the last 44  years. Compulsive gambling is an addiction just like alcoholism and chemical dependency and all three diseases are recognized by the American Psychiatric Association’s D.S.M. Yet, we treat compulsive gambling different then the other two addictions. Society and professional sports treat people with chemical dependency and alcoholism as sick people, yet they look at compulsive gamblers as bad people.

In my years of recovery I have met many compulsive gamblers who have found recovery and become some of society’s most productive people. I do not think that the discussion should be whether or not Pete Rose belongs in the hall of fame. He does! I pray for Pete Rose to find recovery because I know what recovery can do for a person’s life who has an addiction. Some people will believe that Pete Rose doesn’t have an addiction, but I have a copy of a television interview where he says (on the Donahue show 11/8/89), “I didn’t seek help for my gambling problem till the middle of September and I know it’s something I can’t lick by myself. I need help”

IF YOU OR SOMEONE YOU KNOW, HAS A GAMBLING PROBLEM- BREAK THE ADDICTION BEFORE IT BREAKS YOU !

             CALL: 888- LAST BET

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Youth gambling addiction/ poker/internet

Saturday, 1. March 2014

Arnie Wexler  sais Addicts now being able to place bets without even getting out of their pajamas.

  ‘You wake up in the middle of the night, you have an urge to gamble, you can be in your birthday suit and you get on the Internet and you gamble.”
In the 45 years in my own recovery from gambling addiction ( last bet 4/10/68)     I have never seen anything explode like poker has. Poker is sweeping the nation and the world. It is the hottest thing on college campuses. It is easier to play poker then it is to buy cigarettes or a can of beer on campuses all over the country. I have spoken to college students who play poker day and night. They even play during class. According to a Harvard study a few years ago, 4.67% of young people have a gambling problem. Experts tell us that the earlier a person starts to gamble, the greater the risk of them becoming a compulsive gambler. In another survey, 96% of adult male recovering gamblers’ stated that they started gambling before the age of 14. With this poker explosion, we envision that the average age of people seeking help for a gambling problem will be much younger in the next few years.
You can’t surf the TV without seeing some kind of poker tournament being televised, and you can’t be on your computer without seeing a pop up about poker or receiving an email inviting you to come to a poker site to play.    Not everyone who plays, will develop a compulsive gambling problem, but there are those who will get caught up in the craze and then cross that invisible line which will lead to destruction.
It is very easy for someone to get “hooked” on poker. It is readily available (24 hours a day). In some cases (via the internet) you never have to leave your home or office. You don’t even need to get dressed. The game of poker is quick and socially acceptable.
It is the kind of gambling experience that fits very well with someone who has an impulse disorder like compulsive gambling is. It holds a special danger for those who are already at risk, or compulsive gamblers in recovery. We have seen recovering gamblers relapse into their addiction as the result of being tempted by the poker craze.

YOUTH QUESTIONS

These questions were prepared by:

Arnie and Sheila Wexler Associates                                                                   

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These questions may help you consider whether or not you have a gambling problem.

 

1.     Do you find yourself gambling more frequently than you used to?

2.     Has anyone ever suggested that you have a problem with gambling?

3.     Did you ever gamble more than you intended to? (time or money)

4.     Do you have a fantasy that gambling is going to make you rich?

5.     Do you believe you have superior knowledge when you place a bet?

6.     Do you lose time from school, work or sleep  due to gambling?

7.     Do you have intense interest in point spreads or odds?

8.     Do you make frequent calls to sports phones or lotteries?

9.     Have you ever bet with a bookmaker or used credit cards to gamble?

10. Have your grades dropped because of gambling?

11. Have you ever done anything illegal to finance your gambling?

12. Is gambling language or references part of your vocabulary?

13. Do you prefer to socialize with friends who gamble?

14. Does anyone in your family have an addiction?

15. Have you ever borrowed money to finance gambling?

16. Has anyone ever paid your gambling debts for you?

17. Does gambling give you a “rush or high ”?

18. Do you find yourself craving another gambling experience?

19. Do you find yourself “chasing: your losses or wins ?

20. Have you ever tried to stop or control your gambling?

21. Have you lied about your gambling to family and/or friends?

22. Are you spending more time on the internet?

23. Are you playing poker on the internet or live

The WEXLERS  hotline for people who think they may have a gambling problem is 888 LAST BET.

People can call and get more information about the addiction and potential solutions to overcome it.

Arnie and Sheila Wexler have provided extensive training on Compulsive, Problem and Underage Gambling, to more than 40,000 gaming employees (personnel and executives) and have written Responsible Gaming Programs for major gaming companies. In addition, they have worked with Gaming Boards and Regulators, presented educational workshops nationally and internationally and have provided expert witness testimony. Sheila Wexler is the Executive Director of the Compulsive Gambling Foundation. They also run a national help line (888 LAST BET) and work at Recovery Road, a treatment facility in Palm Beach Gardens, Florida that specializes in the treatment of those suffering with gambling addiction.
They are writing a book on Gambling Addiction that will be out in the fall.